Sexual Desires And Disability

We asked members of the Revival community how their able-bodied partners react to their sexual needs and desires. The following were their responses :

"Most of my partner's felt like they had to be extra careful around me, which was very awkward, because who the f*ck wants to be treated with fragility when you're horny? Definitely not me."

"It was hard for them to let go and treat me like, any other person. Caring for someone is sweet, but we need to draw a boundary between caring too much and being controlling. I've been infantilized often, in a relationship. Honestly, I'm just like : Cool, I'll just go home and f*ck myself. Reclaiming my disabled nude body has been so damn empowering, more empowering than any relationship."

"If I'm being honest, sometimes you just don't want to be reminded of your chronic illness. You want your attractiveness to overpower your partner, and not be treated differently. How many disabled sex scenes have we seen on television? In a country like India, Disabled SexEd is non-existent. I'm Disabled, but I'm still a person with needs and desires. I deserve so much more."

"Just because I want to have sex with you, doesn't mean I want to tell you about my disability. In fact, sometimes, its far from it. I can be intimate without wanting to list out my diagnosis and explain how my body works - because frankly, that's exhausting."

- xoxo, not ur dainty darlin's.

(Responses have been kept anonymous to protect their identity)